One of the things to think about when you are looking for a divorce mediator is whether they will meet with both of you together or will meet with you each separately. Meeting with each person separately in mediation is called “caucusing.” Mediators who caucus often do “shuttle mediation” — they go back and forth between parties who are in separate rooms, helping each identify their priorities and working toward a resolution. But I don’t do it. I meet with … read more »
Breaking the news to the kids
Are you the child of a divorce? If so, do you remember when you realized that your parents were separating? My guess is that you do. What do you remember about it? Do you remember what room you were in? Or what you heard? What did you feel? Who comforted you? What was said? Did your parents tell you, or did you overhear something? Was it in the context of an argument, or was it presented to you calmly? Did … read more »
Trust but Verify
I have a question for you – where do you go for advice? If you’re like me, I’m sure you’re saying … Google! But where on Google? How do you know which sites are trustworthy? Now, I can hear you saying, “it depends what I want to know…”. Yes, that’s true for me, too! For instance, when I want to buy a new purchase (like a new web camera or a mattress or a tea kettle), I look at Consumer … read more »
The Five Divorces
Let’s revisit to our friends, Lonnie and Chris, from last week’s blog post about the divorce journey… Lonnie and Chris got married right out of college.¹ They had a lot of ups and downs, and over time, they grew apart. After 20 years, they decided to divorce. They told the kids and their families. At first Chris started sleeping on the couch, but after about 3 months, he moved out and leased another apartment. They decided which furniture Chris would take and which Lonnie would keep. … read more »
The Divorce Journey
Lonnie and Chris got married right out of college¹. They had a lot of ups and downs, and over time, they grew apart. After 20 years, they decided to divorce. They told the kids and their families. At first Chris started sleeping on the couch, but after about 3 months, he moved out and leased another apartment. They decided which furniture Chris would take and which Lonnie would keep. They came up with a parenting schedule for their kids, which … read more »
Love Me or Leave Me!
I recently had the privilege of being interviewed by my colleagues, Isaiah Vallejo-Juste, Esq. and Meredith Shirey, LCSW for their podcast, Love Me or Leave Me.Isaiah is a divorce litigator, and Meredith is a couples therapist. I have a lot of respect for them both–we all work with NewYork City families, but approach our work in different ways. I thought they did a great job distilling my comments and getting to the heart of what mediation is and how I … read more »
What is a QDRO?
What is a QDRO? A Qualified Domestic Relations Order (QDRO – pronounced Quad-roh) has to do with the division of a retirement account in a divorce. So let’s break this down: Retirement accounts (or at least the parts that grow during a marriage) are considered to be marital property, and will usually be divided between the spouses upon divorce. Qualified plans are qualified for special tax treatment. This applies to Individual Retirement Accounts (IRAs), pensions, 401(k) and 403(b) accounts, etc. … read more »
Why You Need Reviewing Attorneys When You Mediate Your Prenup!
Sam recently called me up and asked if I could mediate his prenuptial agreement. “Sure,” I told him. “But you will also each need a lawyer to review the draft.” “Why?” He asked. “We’ve already talked about everything. We agree. All you need to do is write it down.” I understood why he bristled. Who wants to complicate things? Who wants lawyers (or the state, for that matter) to be involved with private, family agreements? Prenups are funny kinds of … read more »
A Few Words About the 2021 Expanded the Child Tax Credit
Parents, take note! Starting in the middle of July, many American families will receive six monthly payments of up to $300 per month for each child under 6 and $250 per month for each child ages 6-17. (Note that these credits start to phase out for individual taxpayers who earn over $75,000 and those who are married and filing jointly who earn more than $150,000.). (You can use a calculator here to find out how much your family might get.) This … read more »
It’s Too Darn Hot!
The other day I was on the phone with a friend who was in the Napa Valley. All of the sudden, we got cut off and couldn’t connect back for a long while. When she finally was able to call me back, she said, “My phone was too hot! It said I could make emergency phone calls only.” It was 103 degrees there!! Ahh, climate change! What if we had the same kind of internal emergency warning sign when our … read more »
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