One of the hardest problems that a divorcing couple may face is how to divide up marital property. Each spouse makes a list of everything they own and everything they owe. This is called a Net Worth Statement. Then the court – or the spouses – must decide which property is separate (which that spouse will keep) and which is marital (or joint) and will have to get divided. As you can imagine, this can be emotional, and may be a … read more »
Who Wears the Pants in Your Family?
When I was growing up, the expectation for middle-class marriages (which were always between women and men) was that it was the man’s job to earn enough money to support the family, and it was the woman’s job was to have children and to contribute to the economy by spending money. [Of course, I recognize that working-class women (particularly those of color) have always worked.] Couples were expected to stay married for life, and it was very difficult to get … read more »
Breaking the news to the kids
Are you the child of a divorce? If so, do you remember when you realized that your parents were separating? My guess is that you do.What do you remember about it–Do you remember what room you were in? Or what you heard? What did you feel? Who comforted you? What was said? Did your parents tell you or did you overhear something? Was it in the context of an argument or was it presented to you calmly? Did your parents … read more »
The Five Divorces
Let’s revisit to our friends, Lonnie and Chris, from last week’s blog post about the divorce journey… Lonnie and Chris got married right out of college.¹ They had a lot of ups and downs, and over time, they grew apart. After 20 years, they decided to divorce. They told the kids and their families. At first Chris started sleeping on the couch, but after about 3 months, he moved out and leased another apartment. They decided which furniture Chris would take and which Lonnie would keep. … read more »
The Divorce Journey
Lonnie and Chris got married right out of college¹. They had a lot of ups and downs, and over time, they grew apart. After 20 years, they decided to divorce. They told the kids and their families. At first Chris started sleeping on the couch, but after about 3 months, he moved out and leased another apartment. They decided which furniture Chris would take and which Lonnie would keep. They came up with a parenting schedule for their kids, which … read more »
Love Me or Leave Me!
I recently had the privilege of being interviewed by my colleagues, Isaiah Vallejo-Juste, Esq. and Meredith Shirey, LCSW for their podcast, Love Me or Leave Me.Isaiah is a divorce litigator, and Meredith is a couples therapist. I have a lot of respect for them both–we all work with NewYork City families, but approach our work in different ways. I thought they did a great job distilling my comments and getting to the heart of what mediation is and how I … read more »
Why You Need Reviewing Attorneys When You Mediate Your Prenup!
Sam recently called me up and asked if I could mediate his prenuptial agreement. “Sure,” I told him. “But you will also each need a lawyer to review the draft.” “Why?” He asked. “We’ve already talked about everything. We agree. All you need to do is write it down.” I understood why he bristled. Who wants to complicate things? Who wants lawyers (or the state, for that matter) to be involved with private, family agreements? Prenups are funny kinds of … read more »
A Few Words About the 2021 Expanded the Child Tax Credit
Parents, take note! Starting in the middle of July, many American families will receive six monthly payments of up to $300 per month for each child under 6 and $250 per month for each child ages 6-17. (Note that these credits start to phase out for individual taxpayers who earn over $75,000 and those who are married and filing jointly who earn more than $150,000.). (You can use a calculator here to find out how much your family might get.) This … read more »
Lawyers Make Things Worse!
“Lawyers make things worse!” I sometimes say to my clients. “They can take people who are this far apart,” I say with my hands about 4 inches away from each other, “and make them this far apart by the time they’re through!” continuing with my hands still facing each other but my arms stretched about 3 feet away. This may seem like blasphemy coming from a lawyer! And I mean no disrespect to my colleagues – but it’s part of … read more »
Seeing Red
Did you ever get in an argument with someone that was so intense that you couldn’t see a way out? Did you ever do things in a moment of rage that you regretted later? The emotions seem to take over. I certainly have. When I was young, I was hot-headed! I’ve done things I am not proud of. And I’ve seen it with clients, too. In fact, one such incident was the reason I got interested in mediation. About 16 … read more »
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