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Ugh – Don’t judge!

July 18, 2022 By Joy Rosenthal

Sophie Gooddog and I spend a lot of time at my mom’s house.  We always stay in the guest room there.  A few weeks ago, my brother, who is allergic to dogs, was coming and was going to stay in that room. He asked me to vacuum it for him. But I knew that Sophie’s fur was only part of the problem. The room also needed a major dusting. It hadn’t had a real scrubbing in a long time. My mom, who is in her … read more »

Filed Under: General

When One Door Closes…

June 13, 2022 By Joy Rosenthal

I am helping a friend move out of her house this week.   She is packing up her big house to move to an apartment far away.  The move makes sense in so many ways, and she knows it, but that doesn’t make it easier. I take down her family photos so she doesn’t have to remember so many moments.  A set of dishes goes into storage in wait for her daughter.  So do the teddy bears and the favorite books.  … read more »

Filed Under: Divorce, General

7 Tips for Parents Talking to the Kids About Divorce or Separation

May 6, 2022 By Joy Rosenthal

I’ve recently been helping some parents think through how and when to talk to their children about their divorce.  Here are some tips I’ve come up with – it’s based on years of reading and working with parents. –  please share it with your spouse! 7 Tips for Parents Talking to Kids About Divorce or Separation Plan. Talk with your spouse first and plan out how and when you are going to have this talk.  Your children will remember this … read more »

Filed Under: Children, Divorce, Families, General

Did Will Smith have an amygdala hijack?  

April 1, 2022 By Joy Rosenthal

That is what psychologist Daniel Goleman has described as the fight or flight response.  The amygdala, a tiny almond shaped structure in our brains, sometimes acts almost reflexively.  When a lion is after you, the theory goes, you don’t have time to make a thoughtful, considered decision.  It’s time to go! Chris Rock was not a lion – and Will Smith wasn’t in physical danger.  But Will Smith obviously felt so threatened that he had to do something about it … read more »

Filed Under: conflict resolution, General, Negotiation, Nonviolence Tagged With: conflict, Dignity, negotiating, understanding

The New York City Family Courts are Clogged Worse Than the BQE at Rush Hour

February 26, 2022 By Joy Rosenthal

I filed two uncontested divorces in early February 2021 in Manhattan Supreme Court, and neither of them have been signed yet.  That is nearly 13 months. It is stressful for my clients, and has a real economic impact, because they cannot transfer or access their retirement accounts until their judgment of divorce is signed. — But that is nothing compared to what is going on in Family Court.  I worked in the Family Courts for 10 years before I became … read more »

Filed Under: Children, Cultural Competence, Divorce, General

Working with Financial Neutrals 

October 18, 2021 By Joy Rosenthal

One of the hardest problems that a divorcing couple may face is how to divide up marital property.   Each spouse makes a list of everything they own and everything they owe. This is called a Net Worth Statement. Then the court – or the spouses – must decide which property is separate (which that spouse will keep) and which is marital (or joint) and will have to get divided.    As you can imagine, this can be emotional, and may be a … read more »

Filed Under: Divorce, General

Who Wears the Pants in Your Family?

August 30, 2021 By Joy Rosenthal

When I was growing up, the expectation for middle-class marriages (which were always between women and men) was that it was the man’s job to earn enough money to support the family, and it was the woman’s job was to have children and to contribute to the economy by spending money.  [Of course, I recognize that working-class women (particularly those of color) have always worked.]  Couples were expected to stay married for life, and it was very difficult to get … read more »

Filed Under: Divorce, General

Why I Don’t Caucus

August 23, 2021 By Joy Rosenthal

Mediation Divorce

One of the things to think about when you are looking for a divorce mediator is whether they will meet with both of you together or will meet with you each separately.   Meeting with each person separately in mediation is called “caucusing.”  Mediators who caucus often do “shuttle mediation” — they go back and forth between parties who are in separate rooms, helping each identify their priorities and working toward a resolution. But I don’t do it. I meet with … read more »

Filed Under: Collaborative Process Tagged With: Conflict Resolution, divorce, family, mediation

Breaking the news to the kids

August 16, 2021 By Joy Rosenthal

How to tell your kids you are getting divorced

Are you the child of a divorce? If so, do you remember when you realized that your parents were separating? My guess is that you do.What do you remember about it–Do you remember what room you were in? Or what you heard? What did you feel? Who comforted you? What was said? Did your parents tell you or did you overhear something? Was it in the context of an argument or was it presented to you calmly? Did your parents … read more »

Filed Under: Children, conflict resolution, Divorce, General Tagged With: children, divorce, family, listening, mediation

Trust but Verify

August 9, 2021 By Joy Rosenthal

I have a question for you – where do you go for advice?  If you’re like me, I’m sure you’re saying … Google!  But where on Google?  How do you know which sites are trustworthy? Now, I can hear you saying, “it depends what I want to know…”. Yes, that’s true for me, too!  For instance, when I want to buy a new purchase (like a new web camera or a mattress or a tea kettle), I look at Consumer … read more »

Filed Under: Collaborative Process, conflict resolution

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