It is much easier (and less expensive) to get married than it is to get divorced! While we may think of divorce trials that we see on TV, the reality is that they are hugely expensive and time consuming, so the vast majority of divorces are negotiated, or settled. There are 3 basic parts to the divorce process – working out a settlement, memorializing it into a written agreement, and filing the court papers.
Most divorce settlements will resolve these basic issues:
- How will you divide what you own together? (In New York, this is called Equitable Distribution)
- Will either of you support the other after the divorce? (This is known as spousal support, maintenance, or alimony)
- Where will the children spend their time? (This is a parenting plan, or how you will share physical custody.)
- How will you work together to make decisions about your children? (This is called legal custody.)
- How will you each support the children financially? (Child support.)
You have several process choices when working out a settlement, including mediation and collaborative process where you and your spouse are directly involved, or having lawyers negotiate on your behalf. We can help you with any of these. We do not do contested divorce cases in court.