New NYS Spousal Support Bill

Last week, Governor Cuomo signed a bill that will soon overhaul the way spousal support is established for divorcing couples in New York State. The portions of the bill that deal with temporary spousal support will take effect on October 26, 2015, and the rest will take effect on January 25, 2016. This law establishes a standard for how permanent spousal maintenance is determined – before, maintenance was purely up to a judge’s discretion, and awards were inconsistent.   A 2010 … read more »

Upcoming events

Tonight I will be speaking with my dear friend and colleague, Teresa Calabrese, Esq., about planning for incapacity (wills, powers of attorney, health care proxies, etc.) at West Village Houses in Greenwich Village. Next month, another dear friend and colleague, Priscilla Prutzman, of the Creative Response to Conflict and I will do a workshop entitled “How Diversity Can Strengthen Your Practice” at the Association of Professional Divorce Mediators. Very exciting!

Divorcing a Narcissist

The New York Times’ Well Book Club is featuring an interesting book this month about Divorcing a Narcissist. The book, Will I Ever Be Free of You? by Karyl McBride.  The Book Club’s   There are some fascinating and heartfelt comments on the book club page.  My 2 cents is that collaborative practice would be an excellent way to negotiate.  What do you think? Have you divorced a narcissist?

Helping Children Transition from One Home to Two

One of the most important parts of the divorce process is figuring out how you and your ex will change your relationship from being romantic partners to being your children’s co-parents. And one of the primary tasks you will have as coparents is helping your children feel “at home” in both homes.  This article explores that phenomenon, with some suggestions for things you can do to help children make the transition.  

Same Sex Married Couples Still Need Second Parent Adoptions

I have written about this before, and it is still true – same sex couples still need second parent adoptions even though they are legally married. New York’s Appellate Division Second Department made this clear their May 2015 decision, Matter of Paczkowski. The case is about a lesbian couple who was married and had a child together during the marriage.  The non-biological mom had not adopted their child. The couple later broke up, and she filed for joint custody, arguing … read more »

Elder Mediation and Family Conversations

The New York Times ran an article about elder mediation and how it can be useful to adult siblings who are working together to take care of aging parents. Elder mediation can help sisters and brothers air out differences, understand each other,clarify their expectations, and approach each other with compassion so they can work together as a team.  This is one of the services we offer. As it happens, I just published an article on describing elder mediation and … read more »



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Busy week!

It’s been a busy week – I was on a panel at CUNY School of Law about Contemplative Lawyering and alternatives to litigating on Monday. On Wednesday I was a panel at Cardozo Law School about mediating with non-traditional families. And today I published an article on about why second parent adoptions are still needed even when the same-sex parents are married.  They say that if  you love what you do, it never feels like work.  So true. I’m … read more »

Dividing Up the Property

One of the biggest decisions that needs to be made in a divorce is how you will divide up your assets.  Here is a link to an article I wrote recently about this topic, entitled “Equitable Distribution 101.”  This might be helpful whether you are using mediation, collaborative process, or using traditional lawyers.

Divorce Envy ~ Who knew?

I’m honored and excited that I was quoted in Amy Sohn’s Harper’s Bazaar’s article about Divorce Envy. It really is an honor.  And an interesting topic.  We feel the need to keep up with the Joneses to get the latest handbag, to do hot yoga and eat kale, why not to get divorced in the most healing way possible?  As I said, if it leads to a trend of collaborative process and divorce mediation, maybe peer pressure is a very … read more »